Trying to figure out your values can be a frustrating process. Often the values we come up with are the standard ‘honesty, communication, blah blah blah’. Discovering our values for some can be relatively easy, because they’re self-aware or spend lots of time navel gazing, but most of us end up staring blankly at the ceiling really unsure of what’s important to us.
But there is one question that supersedes them all, which will remove the veil of uncertainty…and it is:
What really frustrates or annoys me? Then consider what the opposite feeling or value may be.
For example, here are a couple for me…
- I hate that I have to call someone to tell them I won’t be at work because I’m looking after a sick family member. VALUE = Time
- I get frustrated when a person’s words and actions don’t align. VALUE = Authenticity
- I get frustrated when I have to run an idea of program improvement pass my boss. VALUE = Autonomy
- I get bored and annoyed when the same thing is repeated. VALUE = Creativity
And my list could go on.
So as you do this little activity, you’ll quickly discover what’s most important to you and therein lies your values. Work toward living by those and life will become much more enjoyable and purposeful for you.
So, what does really frustrate and annoy you?