All around us, happiness seems to be the pinnacle of all human experience. Everywhere you look, there is a not-so-subtle message toward personal happiness, career success, personal freedom and other ethereal marks that round-off the whole point of our existence.
But seriously, since when was being happy the goal?
As this juggernaut rolls on, people are becoming more unhappy, more disconnected, busier and less committed to a greater cause.
Truth be told, I fell into this landmine in a previous life. You see, when our life doesn’t carry a sense of meaning and purpose, we end up chasing objects of happiness and success.
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It’s not that being happy and having success are bad, it’s just that they are lousy drivers of our lives. They create independence and selfishness. Where in fact, the things that truly make life meaningful and purposeful are when we give our life to something greater than ourselves, have fulfilment in our day-to-dayness, and do life with people we love and care about.
When these things are our focus, happiness and success must follow.
The goal of your own personal happiness is a trap. It’s set by clever marketers who have a product to sell, a book to launch or a mansion to pay off.
You’d be much better off pursuing something meaningful that helps you to experience fulfilment. Then and only then, will you get to any sort of happiness.
Maybe it’s time to shift goals?