It’s time for my annual look in the rear vision mirror. It’s been a really strange kind of year. Why? Because I’ve ended up in a place I did not anticipate January 1, 2017.
Am I content with where I’m at? Yes, absolutely. And therein lies something profound. You see I set all sorts of goals using a specific goal setting course that set me back a few hundred bucks! I set all sorts of ambitions and goals that I intended to achieve for 2017. And yet, I achieved none of them. Yep, NONE of them.
But here’s what I’ve re-discovered to be true: life with God is better than the pursuit of any goal I set. I can say that because where I’ve ended up at the end of the yeat is much better than my goals could have predicted and hoped for. And where I am I didn’t dream or imagined, but it’s exactly where I need to be.
And it’s great.
2017 was the first year that I really stopped and did any sort of strategic goal setting, for my business and personal life. Now that may sound strange coming from a life coach (who are supposed to be ambassadors of SMART goal setting!), but goal setting has never really been my thing and 2017 showed me exactly why that is the case!
I’ve said before that I have been doing the one-word idea. And strangely, I’ve really connected with this over the years, and 2017 was no different.
My word for 2017 was brave, and by brave I meant:
- Brave to share who I really am.
- Brave to reach out to people that make me nervous.
- Brave to share my thoughts and opinions with humility and gentleness.
- Brave to give Wide Open a red hot go.
- Brave to be more honest, authentic and emotional with Jess, my kids and close friends.
- Brave to say yes when I have a gut feeling about doing something.
- Brave to write and share my story.
- Brave to embrace my weakness as that’s where strength is found.
- Brave to say no more often.
- Brave to get healthy.
- Brave to look forward, not back.
- Brave in the quiet moments when the opportunity to choose well is difficult.
So when I consider each of those things, I achieved each of them in some roundabout way. Some of them, I certainly achieved, which is strange because according to my goals, I felt like this year was a bit of a flop.
You see 2017 is the year the Wide Open crashed and burned after giving it a red-hot go. In a full-time capacity anyway. And you know what, I’m really thankful that I’m not doing it full-time. I ended up doing so many things in the business that I hated. I started saying yes to ‘opportunities’ simply because they were paying the bills. And as a dad, that is bloody important, but as a business owner, it’s never a good idea to substitute a dollar for something you don’t love.
Now, I get to do work I’m enjoying elsewhere and also focus solely on coaching people and doing workshops with Wide Open…all the things I love without the challenge of making a healthy profit. Thanks 2017, lesson learnt.
Furthermore, 2017 was a year where wifey and I became closer, oddly enough through challenges which include finances, health, career and numerous unforeseen setbacks. We’ll be married for 10 years very soon (more on that in another post) and I feel like I’m finally getting to know her. And that really excites me! We made it through the 7-year itch (which I’m convinced is a real thing by the way) and we’re now starting to get to the deep and good stuff that marriage affords you.
As a landscape reflection, 2017 was a strange year that ended up nothing how I imagined. And I’m totally thankful for the way it’s gone because I wouldn’t be where I am and wouldn’t have learnt the lessons I have.
It’s been hard, and I’ve cried more this year than ever in my life, but it’s this river of tears that allowed me to float to the destination I was intended to arrive at.
Here’s to 2018.