Inspired by Scary Close, chapter 1…
Our world talks a lot about success. Success at home, success at work and success in our relationships. Yet, I really wonder if we know what success means. Do we really understand what makes an individual and a community successful?
It’s a question I’ve wrestled with over the past 12 months. It’s a question we ask the students I work with. It’s a question that if we are able to answer and clearly define a successful life, it sets in motion everything else we do. It sets in motion our motivation, our goals and the direction we go.
I think this is what Don was alluding to:
“What if some of the most successful people in the world got that way because their success was fueled by a misappropriated need for love? What if the people we consider to be great are actually the most broken?” pg.6
The way we measure our lives is through the lens of external success. Yet, what if success was measured in our ability to love and be loved? What if God views success as being less known by the masses, and well-known by the few? I’m sure most us weren’t born for fame. I’m certain most of couldn’t handle it. Even those who have achieved some sort of fame and success struggle with it. I think that’s because we weren’t born for fame.
For me, success is about peace and contentment. Being at peace and contented with my life. At peace with God and myself. Content with the direction my career is heading. Content with the relationships and people in my life. It doesn’t mean that I ‘settle‘, but as I pursue my life and the world I’m creating, I do it with a deep sense of peace and contentment. If I don’t feel at peace, I feel like I’ve failed.
It’s important we understand success and how we measure it. And as Don explains, maybe it is about mostly relationships and the way we use the days we are given.
“It’s true our lives can pass small and unnoticed by the masses, and we are no less dignified for having lived quietly. In fact, I’ve come to believe there’s something noble about doing with your life save offering love to a person who is offering it back.” pg.6
I love that quote! I love that maybe it is through the simple giving and receiving of love that we become dignified. I love that maybe if we just love our spouse and our kids then maybe that’s a noble enough task for God to be happy.
I know life has shifted a lot for me recently. Family, friends and relationships with people I love are becoming increasingly important.
And the external success that I may achieve is becoming less of a focus.
This post was inspired by the book Scary Close by Donald Miller.
I’m blogging my way through the book as I read a chapter per day and share what has impacted me as I go.
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